Category: Let's talk
Are we softer on our kids than our parents were on us? This question comes up cause of a recent thing that schoold did here. They closed schools just cause it was cold outside. Not cause it was snowing but cause it was cold. They did shut down when it snowed and that is understandable but cold? I remember kids standing out in the rain. Another thing i heard in the news was that they were saying back packs are to heavy for our kids to carry. Are they serious? My back pack due to the fact that my books had to be inlarged. They weighed a ton and I still had to carry those puppies.
Lol then the other day wile at the movies this mother with child at toe spilled some of her popcorn wile walking with him. He picked up a piece and decided to put it in his mouth. That lady lost her mind. She grabbed him up and rushed him to the bathroom. My god the things my lil brother put in his mouth as a child would of made that lady's head spin. But ya know we never got sick and I notice that now kids get sick all the time. Oh and why do strolers need shocks? I saw this the other day, this lady was pushing her baby in a stroler it had shocks front and back. Omg when i was a kid they had a seat with metal and cardboard lol. Ok I sound old now but do you think we baby our kids to much these days and does the way we handle them have anyting to do with the fact that their amune systom may be weaker? Oh one more, cell phones. There is a lil girl 7 years old, lives down the road from me. She has a cell phone and her mom calls her on it to com in even if she is playing in the front yard. As a kid it didn't matter where I was I better be able to hear my mom by her calling me one time. This kid lets the phone ring lol and will call her back at her earlyiest availability. So what do you guys think? I think the worlds gone mad myself. But that's my opinion.
We need to beet some sence into the little shits, that's what my parrents did and I turned out great!
hahah, this was a great laugh. I think the world has gone crazy but only just a little. the thirty second rule, I am sure we all remember that. The rule that says if it hasen't been on the ground for thirty seconds then it's still good. But it's tecnology. advances forword mean change. The cellphone issue with the seven year old is interesting. On the upside if she or he needs to call 9 1 1 well there it is. However at seven is he or she responceable enough to use a cellphone properly? I don't know anything about shocks on strollers but I bet it makes for a less bumpy ride. hahaha. well at any rate thanks for the laugh!
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Hehe our blindguy firned comments aside (the language of which cast a shadow of a doubt on his alleged qualities) I think you got a point. I think a lot of the difference has to do with a more modern (not necessarily better) lifestyle. Now people are too busy to have kids, most people are too busy with their careers and they like to be able to make raising a kid a quick and convenient process (hence the cell phones). I think a parent should stay home, if at all possible, or at leat work only half a day during the first 8 to 10 years while the kid is growing up and really pay attention and talk etc. As for other things, well, if it's cold you dress appropriately, coming from Iceland we never closed schools due to bad weather and some of the storms we got made that huge blizzard in the north east seem like a trip to Mexico by comparison. As for the backpack thing, well, it's ligitimate concern I think, I don't know if it can be solved or how but I think that's something people just did not think about but might be an important factor.
cheers
-B
well, I'm not sure soft is the right word, but I think a lot of things have changed now since when we were kids. It would be true to say that a lot more children suffer from asthma and similar such conditions these days, and this can be put down mainly to increased polution. also we are told to serilise everything until a baby is a year old. Well my son started crawling when he was 7 months old, and then everything that wasn't bolted down went into his mouth! i mean yeah of course you're careful, but you can be too careful. As for a 7 year old having a cel phone ... well 7 year olds are not responsible enough or mature enough to be anywhere on their own where they'd need a cel phone, plus we do not as yet know the risks from radiation etc, so ... my son won't be getting one for his 7th birthday! the same with television - 50% of all 3 year olds have a tv in their bedroom - well how can you then control what they watch? my son can have a tv, and by the same token a cel phone, when he can afford one!
There is a theory that the rising rates of Asthma are due to excessive cleaning in the house ..the child is subjected to an unatural enviroment and he/she cannot build up immunity to bugs dust mites and dust particles ect so in turn they become hyper sensitive..I agree that there is far too much emphasis on child safety these days the fear or murder paedopjilia ect has created a frightened nanny state which prevents the child from fighting with conkers for fecks sake..
yeh that's absolutely right. I mean there has to be some safety precautions - I had a safety gate on my kitchen for instance till Nathan was 2. I am somewhat paranoid about hot things as have a cousin who was very badly burned by a cup of coffee when he was a baby, and toddlers can be so quick it's easy to see how they can burn themselves in an environment such as a kitchen, but I don't go overboard, and I certainly don't think there's a pedifile lying round every bush waiting to pounce
You have a good approach to parenting feck I wish they came with a guide book..smile..but sadly there are those who believe every man is a threat, every sport is dangerous and the child will shatter like fine crystal ..I teach blind/vi children to climb to boost their self esteem and to show them that I can't is just an excuse..some of the parents are understandably horrified and refuse to allow wee jimmy to have a go, but when wee Jimmy stands at the top of the crag in 1 piece grinning like an eejit they realise that these have to be allowed to scarpe their arms and bruise their knees ect in order to progress..
my sister's son is in nursery, and one of the carers who works there is a guy, and there were some parents who refused to let him change their kids' nappies purely because he was a man.
That's a prime example of some parents paranoia they have no idea of how emotionally brittle, insecure and frightened their children will become, due to their neurotic attitude...but on the other side of the argument our problem is, how do you differentiate between a guy who is genuinely interested in the children's welfare and an dangerous paedophile and thats the crux of the matter for us as parents.
well, I think we have to use common sense, and bring our children up knowing that some things are not ok, and that if things like that happen it's ok to get angry about it and tell that person that it's not ok. But I think we also need to come out of this whole attitude of stranger danger. the harsh reality is, that 9 out of 10 children who are abused, are abused by someone they know, so it ain't the people in the parks you need to be aware of, it's the people who are closest to your kids.
thats a good point its a tragic irony that most children are either abused or killed, in their own homes, I can't imagine a greater betrayal of trust. But unfortunately high profile paedophile cases and the view put about by misguided pressure groups, that every man /woman is a potential abuser, still persists and shows no sign of fading I think that idea that a possible threat lurks around every corner is potentially more damaging to a child